How Being Nice Can Lead to Bad Decisions

Episode #386
December 5, 2017
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Podcast Episode #386

Decisions have to be made in the church. Unfortunately our desire to be nice and avoid hurting someone’s feelings can often lead to either a bad decision or simply not making one that’s needed.

Some highlights from today’s episode include:

  • Christian organizations should be better stewards of resources than any other organization.
  • Most people know when a change in personnel needs to be made in a local church.
  • Sometimes we are just too nice that we are unwilling to confront sin.
  • Things in the church will be so different 5-10 years from now. Many churches are not ready for this change.
  • “Being nice” is not always the best thing to do—especially when it leads to poor decisions.
  • Do you want a job or do you want to make a difference? Making a difference involves making hard choices.
  • Make the right decisions—not the most expedient ones.

The seven reasons being nice can lead to bad decisions are:

  1. We don’t make a needed personnel decision.
  2. We are unwilling to confront sin.
  3. We won’t eliminate a weak program or ministry.
  4. We are unwilling to make tough decisions on facilities.
  5. We compromise the Word of God.
  6. We let volunteers continue in positions where they should not.
  7. We make bad financial choices.

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