Why Churches Really Aren’t Friendly to Guests

Episode #265
October 4, 2016
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Podcast Episode #265

Its rare to find a church who doesn’t think they are friendly. But don’t be fooled, not all churches are friendly. They just think they are.

Some highlights from today’s episode include:

  • Many churches are not friendly because the people are in holy huddles.
  • You have to have an eye for those you do not know in the church if you want to be genuinely friendly.
  • I know they’re probably out there, but I’ve yet to meet a church guest who likes the stand-and-greet time.
  • The stand-and-greet time can (and often does) become a substitute for genuine friendliness.
  • Are your announcements in code or could someone unfamiliar with your church understand them?
  • After the pastor, the first staff member I would hire is probably a children’s minister.
  • If your church wants to reach young families, you have to be reaching and ministering to their kids.
  • Guest friendliness is an overflow of who you are the rest of the week.

The six reasons why churches really aren’t friendly to guests are:

  1. The holy huddle syndrome.
  2. The stand-and-greet satisfier.
  3. The I-don’t-live-here reality.
  4. The insider language mystery.
  5. The unhappy kid/unhappy parent problem.
  6. The 6 + 1 dilemma.

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