How to Say No to Church Members

September 14, 2018
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Podcast Episode #467

Pastors often fall into the trap of being people pleasers. Today, we discuss why and how you can say no to requests or even demands from church members.

Some highlights from today’s episode include:

  • One of the most freeing things a leader can do is to accept that you will not be loved by everyone.
  • Pastors, make sure your first line of ministry is your family.
  • Pastor, you can’t say yes to everything. You have to learn to say no to some things.
  • Having a referral list can help a pastor say no to ongoing pastoral counseling.

The six ways that we discuss today are:

  1. Accept you can’t please everyone
  2. Say yes to your family first
  3. Find times away from the office
  4. Suggest members do what they want you to do
  5. Get advocates to help you
  6. Say no graciously

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