Should Pastors Be Friends with Church Members or Not?

Episode #680
January 25, 2021
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As a pastor, you are part of the body of Christ. Within the body, friendship is important, even for pastors. Thom and Sam discuss friendship with church members and offer sound advice for pastors. 

  • Yes! But we’ve all been burned… badly.
  • Friends outside the church are necessary but often too distant.
  • Every pastor should have at least one close friend inside the church.
  • Discern your true friends through four filters: Presence, protection, truthfulness, and trustworthiness. 

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