The Six Most Common Ways Ministry Spouses Get Hurt

Episode #196
February 5, 2016
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Podcast Episode #196

Discussion about a recent blogpost that focused on the hurt ministry spouses often experience.

Some highlights from today’s episode include:

  • If you look at any relationship, things get said unintentionally but they often still hurt.
  • When you come up to a ministry spouse, encourage them. Don’t complain about their spouse.
  • It is unreasonable to think you are getting a 2-for-1 when you hire someone on church staff.
  • Sometimes church members just don’t know how to interact with ministry spouses.
  • Going after a spouse to inflict pain on the minister is sinful and cowardly.
  • We need to stand up to bullies in the church and encourage ministers and their families.

The six most common ways ministry spouses get hurt are:

  1. Complaints about their spouses.
  2. High expectations about ministry involvement.
  3. Complaints about the children.
  4. Isolation.
  5. Gossip and murmuring.
  6. Going to the spouse with problems about the minister.

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